Being There When You Are Needed
Divorce is never easy, especially for children. As a parent, it is important to help your children through this difficult time and ensure that they can cope with the upcoming changes in their lives. There are many things you can do to help your children and the family unit transition into this next chapter. Read on to learn some of the most important ones.
It’s important for children to feel like their lives aren’t being turned upside down. One of the best things you can do is provide reassurance and stability for your children. Remind them that both of their parents still love them very much and that the divorce will not change this fact. Also, depending on the situation, you may wish to emphasize that they will still see both parents regularly and consistently.
Make Yourself Available
It’s vital that you make yourself available to answer any questions your child may have, but be sure to not over disclose. They might not want to talk about their feelings about this major life change at first, but eventually, they’ll need to express what they’re feeling and/or thinking to someone. Be patient and understanding if and when they choose to come to you. Additionally, try not to put any blame on the other parent— this can make your child feel caught in the middle.
It is not appropriate to discuss legal proceedings with children, regardless of whether you are in the middle of the litigation process or have finalized your divorce. These are adult matters and should be addressed with counsel or the Court.
For many parents, this may be a good time to discuss and evaluate whether your children need the assistance of a professional for guidance during this period. In some circumstances, a therapist and/or counselor may be best equipped to provide neutral support and reassurance for your children.
Encourage Them to Express Themselves
There are many emotions that come with divorce, and it’s important for children to express them. Whether it’s through art, writing, or simply talking, encourage your child to let their feelings out. It can be helpful to do some activities together that allow for self-expression, like going on walks or making vision boards. Additionally, you might want to consider seeking professional help if your child is having a difficult time adjusting. Be sure to refer to your interim parenting plan, if applicable, to ensure you are complying with all terms relative to decision-making in the best interest of your minor child(ren).
Encourage Positive Relationships with the Other Parent
Even though you’re going through a divorce, it’s important to encourage a positive relationship between your children and the other parent. This can be difficult, but it’s vital for their emotional well-being. Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent either directly to or in the presence of your children.
While divorce is never easy, there are things you can do to help your children through it. By providing reassurance, being available, and encouraging positive relationships with the other parent, you can help your children adjust and thrive.
Get Help When Needed
If you have questions about divorce or need advice on how to help your children, know that you can turn to the team at Laubacher & Co.. We know divorce is difficult, and we care about how you and your children feel during this time.
Learn more or schedule a consultation by calling (440) 336-8687 or by visiting our website.